Reflections on D*m pro

1- "If I like it, I'll come back."
Here's an example of a "submissive" response that will lead me to refuse a session. Amazing, isn't it?
Every pro knows: a visitor who has found what he's looking for will want to come back (whether he will is another question). It's a no-brainer. Who would go back to RV after a complete failure and zero chemistry?
Saying it is something else. For one thing, there's no need.
Secondly, it's clearly posing the future session as a consumable good to be evaluated on the Q's tripAdvisor, 5 stars, satisfied-(not) reimbursed, the customer is king (no). This is not the spirit of my practice, nor, therefore, the type of people I want to see.
Finally, it's instilling - or trying to instill - a relationship of power: if you, in your dungeon, with your instruments, your know-how, your body, your lingerie, give me what I want (at random... to come!), then maybe I'll come back and pay you...
... but only, only if I'm happy. Any pro can see this attempt at reversal, or even a discreet little blackmail that goes unnoticed. And yes, domination is their business.
2- Transaction, frustration
A domination session is a transactional relationship based on a quasi-theatrical construction (unequal, hierarchy). A priori, it makes no sense to ask a visitor why he wants to see me, and then not to follow any of his instructions. It would be like denying the implicit contract that led him to my floor: he's here for a practice, a fantasy, and my role is to stage them or refuse the session.
But denying him what he loves can serve at least two purposes:
- to confront him with his contradictions: "I am a true submissive " >< "I dictate your actions."
I'm annoyed by submissive people who claim to be submissive, who only have that word on their lips, and who brandish it as an alibi or a right of way to impose themselves, when they're not being disrespectful. I much prefer a very concrete "I'm only submissive with conditions", "It's only a posture in a game that amuses me as long as you fulfill my desires". At least the report is clear and the submission limited to a precise framework.
- To stray from the paths of desire already mapped out, known to my visitor as well as to myself, to test, to seek, to create little bush roads... which can also turn out to be dead ends.