Dungeon reflections
I've been on X/Twitter for a few years now. I'm now sharing my thoughts on professional domination to hopefully open up the debate.
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1- Cyclical, like the seasons
I'm now old enough in the business to see customers come back to me after they've done their tour... Tour of themselves or their fantasies, tour of the various dungeons here, there and over there (the Dominathon!), tour of what the "big BDSM market" had to offer them.
Some just want a shot, an appointment and they'll leave before - maybe - coming back in 2 or 3 years.
Very well, so goes the game of supply and demand.
Others hope to resume a relationship they've misbehaved in, or a follow-up they've disdained to conclude. And yes. Many submissives/customers who claim to be "faithful/respectful/conquered" disappear without notice or explanation, on an enthusiastic promise to reschedule, or even one or more cancellations... if not both.
More than once, this attitude disturbed me. Surprised me. Angry. Disappointed, even offended.
Because I expected better.
Because I see it as a lack of courage, respect and care, especially in such an unusual relationship. We can go away or say goodbye without drama, or owing each other anything.
Because some of them I really thought were dead - hello, Covid!
This week I received four requests from former (very) regular customers. Four in seven days, that's a lot. Oh yes... it's the new season!
Now I know: most submissives are like the seasons. Cyclical.
(There are 2-3 of them, though, and I always have them in the way. They'll recognize themselves. Cat smile.)
2- "Disinterested proposal
Men often write to me. They want to tell me all about their submissive history, their emotions, their fantasies, their thoughts, their anecdotes.
They suggest a correspondence, a reading of their texts, a coffee, a meeting in an unusual place.
Now I refuse if their proposal goes beyond what I propose: social time - understand, paid. No matter how fascinating, these exchanges demand my attention, time and energy, which I take away from my projects (or my rest!), a trip or even hours behind the computer.
Some get offended, let me know or don't bother to reply. It's as if, by placing their "disinterested proposal" in my professional field, I've made a mistake or tarnished the image they have of me. A pro asks someone to pay for what he or she wants to share? That's not devaluing someone's value, nor is it sharing. It's about valuing yourself, your skills and your time.
It's not a matter of despising others, but of valuing them within a framework: our own.
The situation is different, of course, when WE solicit someone. But that's for sure.
3- Raising the bar
With experience, I find that one of the difficulties is to maintain a very high quality in my practice and exchanges with my visitors. Any examples?
- Prepare my place with care, the whole place.
- Seeing each appointment with fresh eyes, even if the requests are similar and some customers, whether tourists or punters, treat me/us as service providers, almost interchangeable endorphin pullers.
- Finding new angles, new games, collaborating with inspiring people to boost my enthusiasm.
- Rethinking my space, investing in work and equipment.
- Continuing to train when I could be resting on my laurels.
These demands on myself make me more demanding of who I receive or want to receive.
Raising the bar. I think that's what keeps me in this business.
