BDSM Coaching
There's what you want, what you're trying or imagining. There's also what you don't yet dare to do.
Between the two, there's a space. That's where I come in.
My motto? You know a lot more than you think you do.
Why BDSM coaching?
Because approaching unconventional sexuality alone can be intimidating.
Because projecting an image of power or accepting submission is complicated.
Because practicing while combining safety, mastery and creativity is hard work.
Because being guided by someone who's been there is what I would have liked when I started out, first privately, then professionally.
Let's talk practical
- Prices: Starting at €150 for 90 minutes via video call; starting at €200 for 90 minutes at Le Cruel Boudoir in Paris. Package deals available.
- Whether it's a one-time session or an ongoing program, my BDSM coaching is open to everyone, whether you're a beginner or an experienced practitioner.
- Our sessions are confidential. They provide a space for conversation, reflection, and mutual trust, with you at the center: I adapt to your needs, your circumstances, and your pace.
- In one-on-one sessions, what you share with me stays between us. In pair sessions, things work differently: I explain this in detail on the page Crossed desires.
Who am I?
- A Paris-based Dominatrice with about twenty years of experience. In addition to sessions at my Cruel Boudoir, I lead workshops, give interviews, write books, participate in artistic projects, and create content related to BDSM. Discover my media presence as well as my creations on La Férule and Lule's creations.
- An expert who's still learning. Certified in Ericksonian hypnosis and in NVC (non-violent communication) training, I continue to hone my skills.
- A curious, open and free spirit. I've lived abroad, worked several jobs, taught, lived from my pen. Cerebral, I'm interested in the power of words and the psychology surrounding BDSM dynamics. As a pedagogue, I guide, listen and transmit, with rigor, humor and non-judgment.
Important! BDSM is not a therapy, nor does it replace one. I am neither a therapist nor a sexologist.
My BDSM coaching offers in Paris
Discovering BDSM
Get started with joy and in complete safety.
For curious people, beginners, and those on a journey of discovery.
BDSM Immersion
To really have fun, to find the right balance.
For people who already have (some) experience.
Expertise and mentoring
Refine your posture, rethink your practice.
For seasoned veterans or those seeking answers.
Crossed desires
And if we dared?
What about vibrating?
For duos who want the «Wow!» without the «Ouch!»
My path between vulnerability and power
When I first started out as a Dominatrix in the mid-2000s (already!), the BDSM scene in France was VERY different from what it is today: online resources, serious books, and SM-kinky-latex parties were rare; Fetlife didn’t exist; there were no munchs, workshops, or festivals. BDSM was a solitary and secret path, a world away from magazine covers.
Starting out in these conditions wasn't easy, but it was exhilarating.
Curious without a compass, I searched far and wide, multiplying discussions, one-off or lasting connections, sometimes D/s, sometimes SM, sometimes BDSM experiences. I've met some great people and some not so great, experienced moments of joy, sorrow and discouragement. I've made mistakes and learned from them. I've doubted my abilities, my intuition and my certainties. I questioned my legitimacy and worked to affirm it.
I found myself first worthless, then extraordinary; extraordinary, then vulnerable; powerful precisely because I was vulnerable. Over time, I began to question the stereotypes. I had to—since I didn’t discover my childhood interests until much later: in my mind, a Dominatrix was a ruthless creature in latex or vinyl, wielding a whip in a basement… Nothing that resembled me at all. So I wasn’t a Mistress, after all!
Little by little, I integrated into my practice what piqued my interest. Here are a few examples: neuroscience, feminism, hypnosis and MSC (Modified States of Consciousness), Jodorowsky's psychomagic, dance, touch...
I'm passionate about forging links between fields that might seem very separate. And so does breaking down the barriers between different areas of knowledge... Hence my motto: you know a lot more than you think you do.