BDSM Coaching
There's what you want, what you're trying or imagining. There's also what you don't yet dare to do.
Between the two, there's a space. That's where I come in.
My motto? You know a lot more than you think you do.
Why BDSM coaching?
Because approaching unconventional sexuality alone can be intimidating.
Because projecting an image of power or accepting submission is complicated.
Because practicing while combining safety, mastery and creativity is hard work.
Because being guided by someone who's been there is what I would have liked when I started out, first privately, then professionally.
Who am I?
- A Paris-based Dominatrice with twenty years« experience in kink. In addition to my Cruel Boudoir sessions, I give workshops, interviews, write books and create BDSM-related content. Discover them on La Férule and Lule's creations.
- An expert still learning. Currently training in hypnosis and NVC (non-violent communication), I'm continuing to hone my eye for what makes people feel good and safe.
- A curious, open and free spirit. I've lived abroad, worked several jobs, taught, lived from my pen. Cerebral, I'm interested in the power of words and the psychology surrounding BDSM dynamics. As a pedagogue, I guide, listen and transmit, with rigor, humor and non-judgment.
Let's talk practical
- Whether punctual or ongoing, my BDSM coaching is for everyone, novice or experienced.
- Our meetings are a space for discussion, reflection and mutual trust, with you at the center: I adapt to your needs, your constraints and your pace.
- They take place by video, at the Cruel Boudoir or on neutral ground. A deposit is required.
Important! BDSM is not a therapy, nor does it replace one. I am neither a therapist nor a sexologist.
My BDSM coaching offers in Paris
Discovering BDSM
Throwing yourself with joy, in safety.
For the curious, the beginner, the almost-ready (one-to-one sessions).
BDSM Immersion
To really have fun, to find the right balance.
For people with (some) experience (one-to-one sessions).
Expertise and mentoring
Refine your posture, rethink your practice.
For seasoned players or to get through a tricky situation (one-on-one sessions).
Crossed desires
And if we dared?
What about vibrating?
For duos who want the «Wow!» without the «Ouille!» (3-way sessions, you and me).
My path between vulnerability and power
In my early days as a Dominatrice, the BDSM landscape in France was VERY different from today: online resources, serious books, SM-kinky-latex parties were rare, Fetlife didn't exist, there were no munchies, workshops or festivals. BDSM was a solitary, secret path, a world away from magazine covers.
Starting out in these conditions wasn't easy, but it was exhilarating.
Curious without a compass, I searched far and wide, multiplying discussions, one-off or lasting connections, sometimes D/s, sometimes SM, sometimes BDSM experiences. I've met some great people and some not so great, experienced moments of joy, sorrow and discouragement. I've made mistakes and learned from them. I've doubted my abilities, my intuition and my certainties. I questioned my legitimacy and worked to affirm it.
Over time, I questioned the clichés. In my mind, an SM Dominatrix Mistress was a ruthless creature in latex or vinyl, wielding a whip in a cellar... Nothing like me. So I wasn't a Mistress!
Little by little, I integrated into my practice what piqued my interest. Here are a few examples: neuroscience, feminism, hypnosis and MSC (Modified States of Consciousness), Jodorowsky's psychomagic, dance, touch...
I'm passionate about forging links between fields that might seem very separate. And so does breaking down the barriers between different areas of knowledge... Hence my motto: you know a lot more than you think you do.