A domination session?
Contacting a Dominatrix isn't always easy... How do you go about it? When will I see you, and what's the protocol? And for that matter, will I receive you at all?
Asking yourself these questions is a good sign. Don't be that person who dares to do everything - and is therefore recognized as such.
A BDSM session, yes, but for whom?
For you, perhaps, man, woman, LGBTQIA+ person.
I will not select you on any of the following criteria: ethnic origin, physical appearance, profession, sexual orientation or experience.
What matters to me is your respect for me, the sincerity of your approach and the harmony between our fantasy worlds. Keep in mind that I'm not an executor, nor a small hand at your service.
At home, humor is appreciated, as are small gestures. Visit my wishlist.
«Madam, I'm a novice/beginner!»
Very good. Confidence: aware of the importance of a first time, I particularly enjoy initiating novices. The taste of novelty, no doubt!
Are you stressed, shy or scared? That's normal.
Are you REALLY stressed out, shy, scared of booking a domination session? Let's have a drink first.
«Madam, I am not submissive!»
Fetishists, masochists, sensory explorers,curious about other spices? My place is open to you if you respect my rules. The main one: at all times I remain Mistress of Ceremonies.
«Madam, I want sex/sensuality!»
Some things can't be claimed. Depending on what you inspire me to do, I can be close or further away. To put it plainly: if you're looking for sensuality (caresses, masturbation) under the guise of BDSM or lascivious play without a D/s axis, you've come to the wrong place.
Sexual relations are excluded.
"Madam, we're a couple!"
Welcome! Let's discuss your expectations and build a scenario: who will dominate whom, and how?
Please note that I will ask to speak to your partner to ascertain his or her consent, motivation and limits.
"Madam, I want to learn!"
Let's agree on one coaching session. I can help you gain confidence, advise you, train you in certain practices, give you my opinion on various subjects: consent, power dynamics, safety, harm reduction...
A domination session, yes, but how?
My projects are numerous (discover them on La Férule, my artistic website, and on my store, the Lule's creations !) my busy life. Contact me in advance for an appointment!
- I welcome people between 12.30 pm and around 10 pm (end of session time), on weekdays or weekends, but never on the same day.
- The sessions take place at Cruel Boudoir, my BDSM dungeon. If we already know each other, I can move under certain conditions.
- I communicate by e-mail only.
- A deposit is mandatory.
- I prefer sessions of at least 2 hours. However, 1h30 is still possible. A single hour is too short for the out-of-this-world bubbles I like to create.
- I prefer ongoing relationships to one-shots.
- I'm not looking for an exchange of services or submissive memberships.
- No negotiation of my conditions will not be tolerated at any time, under any circumstances.
One step at a time...
- Step 1: send me your questionnaire. Detail your search! I'll get back to you as soon as I can, even if you say no - as long as your request follows my rules.
Not receiving a reply? Check your spam folder. - Step 2: we agree on an appointment, confirmed after receipt of the deposit. You receive instructions for our session. Let's avoid tedious back-and-forth emails, thank you.
- Step 3: day D, time H. I welcome you and remind you of the safety rules.
Take a shower (soap, towels, glove and disposable toothbrush await you). - Step 4: end of session. You can shower again.
I propose a exit hatch (approx. 15 min.). See paragraph below, aftercare.
Aftercare, yes or no?
Aftercare is defined as post-session time and care designed to soothe the physical and emotional reactions caused by the intensity of the games, enabling a smoother transition to everyday life.
Its duration and form vary (discussion, cuddling, shared meal...). There are no rules!
Dominants and submissives alike. Some don't need or want aftercare, others do. For still others, it depends on the day, their personal context, their partner and the dynamics of the game.
My aftercare consists of a debriefing over a drink (about 15 minutes). This informal moment added domination session allows you to share your impressions, ask questions and refocus before leaving... or to change the subject while the experience settles down.
Do you need special support or a quiet moment? Just let me know. I'll finish the game a little early to avoid an abrupt end.
Frame and safety
- I'm a Mistress, not a therapist. Does a domination session bring up deep questions or personal wounds? I encourage you to consult a competent professional (psychologist, sexologist, etc.) to untangle the threads. BDSM and therapy are two different spaces.
- My BDSM practice implies co-responsibility, even in an asymmetrical relationship. No matter how attentive I am to your reactions, it's impossible for me to respond to what you don't express. Speak up, whether it's to say «Great! Fantastic!» or «It's not going well, we need to...».»
- At any time, the safeword or stop word, RED, is used to stop a practice in progress - the session if necessary. We can discuss this afterwards.
- Now let's play!